GAG: any device that is placed in the mouth or over the mouth, either partially or completely, that is designed as a restraint system to prevent speech or to mute a person's verbal sounds. Sometimes gags hold the mouth open rather than closed. There are several sorts of gags, such as: cleave gag, ball gag, ring gag, rope gag, mouth gag, mouth bit, pump gag, funnel gag, spider gag, tape gag, and utility gag. The term also refers to the act of choking or retching. 
 GANG BANG: a sexual act with multiple males and one female. An orgy with far less females than males. An orgy where several male/female participants have sex with one male/female participant. See related ORGY. GASLIGHTING: a slang term for a form of psychological abuse in which false information is given to the victim, designed to disorient and cause doubt in his/her own perception of events. A form of abusive mind control often brought on by isolating the victim so there is no one else that can dispute certain situations. The term comes from a play on Broadway in 1941 called Gas Light. It was later adapted into a movie in 1944 starring Ingrid Bergman as the victim of such abuse. Gaslighting is now being used loosely in modern times and can also refer to any mental abuse of any kind by a dominant to a submissive in the BDSM realm. GASPING: see EROTIC ASPHYXIATION. GASPER: one who engages in gasping/breath control. See EROTIC ASPHYXIATION. GATES OF HELL: a male chastity device, consisting of several metal rings connected together and placed around the penis, designed to prevent the penis from becoming completely erect; proves very painful should the male become aroused. The penis can become engorged within a confined space, causing a person to have difficulty ejaculating. See related CHASTITY CAGE. 
GAY LEATHER: see LEATHER COMMUNITY. GEAR: any item or device used in a BDSM activity. Toys, tools, and instruments are also terms for gear. 
GENDERFLUID: a person who identifies themselves as a mix of both male and female, feeling more male on some days and more female on others. GENDERQUEER or GQ: a person who identifies themselves as neither male nor female, a gender that is outside of the simple binary norm. The term also applies to someone who identifies themselves as being a person of the opposite sex on the inside, while being sexually attracted to the same sex that they were born. For example, a woman who feels she is a man inside a woman's body, and finds other women attractive. She is not simply gay (a woman attracted to another woman), because she identifies herself as being male. GENITORTURE: inflicting pain on the genitals. GERMAN: a code term for sadomasochistic activities. An old guard or leather community code word used to distinguish BDSM activities from other sexual activities. GIMP: the original term is an offensive slang name for a physically handicapped or lame person; also, a feeble or contemptible person. In BDSM, the term gimp refers to a gay male submissive, or someone who frequently wears a gimp suit. Even within a BDSM context, the term is sometimes used in derogatory ways. GIMP MASK: a tight-formed hood, often made of leather, rubber, PVC, and/or spandex, which entirely encloses the face and head. It often lacks openings for the eyes, mouth, or ears. 
GIMP SUIT: a bondage suit made of stretched leather, PVC, rubber, and/or spandex, designed to cover the body completely, fitting closely to the skin, often including anchor points for bondage. It sometimes has an attached hood, or gimp mask. 
GOLDEN SHOWER: a term for the act of urinating on a person. See WATER SPORTS. GOOD PAIN: a term used to describe a desired pain by the receiver in a BDSM exchange. A pain that a person perceives as pleasurable. The opposite being that bad pain is unwanted or too much pain. GOREAN D/s: an elaborate system of rules and social structures, adapted from a fictitious society in the Gor novels, a series of science fiction books written by John Norman. Cult followers of the novels have created an online role-play-type society, with elaborate story plots and computer-generated animation. Other cult followers have taken a more lifestyle approach, adopting some of the same philosophies depicted in the novels. These people call themselves Goreans. Those who pursue a Gorean lifestyle do not always consider what they do to be BDSM. However, due to some of the role-play of a 24/7 power exchange, they are generally considered part of the BDSM subculture. Those who do pursue a Gorean lifestyle and consider it to be BDSM call their lifestyle practice Gorean D/s. One of the key philosophies held by many in the Gorean D/s lifestyle is taken straight from John Norman's writings which he called the "natural order." The "natural order" is the belief that males are inherently more dominant, while females have the predisposition to be subservient to men. Thus, these are typically the set roles in Gorean role-play. Sometimes, those who practice Gorean D/s make the "natural order" philosophy a mandatory rule for all in their circle to follow, even though in the John Norman novels, women could attain high ranks in powerful positions to include ruling Gorean cities. A few dominant men who practice Gorean D/s also hold the belief that their role of being dominant is an entitlement, their given right simply because they are males, without any need of experience as a dominant or having any experience in BDSM. This is often met with controversy as many in BDSM communities are firm believers that the role of dominant and/or master must be earned through respect and experience. It should be noted that not all who practice Gorean D/s take on the philosophy that males are superior. You can find on the Internet many sites depicting Gorean "slave positions" in which the submissive is to hold certain position upon the command of the dominant. These Gorean slave positions have gained in popularity in recent times. There are increasing numbers of individuals who embrace Gorean slave positions and other Gorean structures in their BDSM play, even though they themselves do not follow or practice a strict Gorean D/s lifestyle. Gorean D/s is unfamiliar to many in BDSM, yet still, though it may not be recognized, Gorean D/s has actually influenced many corners of the BDSM community. 
GOWORD: an uncommon term for a code word meaning to continue a play scene after it has been stopped by a safeword. Many believe a scene should not stop and start frequently, instead once a scene has stopped a return to play should only take place after some discussion and space to clear one's head. Gowords allow the submissive to top from the bottom, which is often seen as an unwelcomed practice. See related TOPPING FROM THE BOTTOM. GREEK: a code term for anal sex and anilingus. GROPE BOX: a piece of bondage furniture. A long, enclosed box with many openings along the front, in which a person may be placed and then groped, poked, or fondled. Sometimes a grope box can be found in fetish clubs (mostly in Europe), where a person is placed inside to face the humiliation of being groped by strangers. 
GROUP MARRIAGE or POLYFIDELITY: a form of polyamory marriage also sometimes called poly-exclusivity. An arrangement between more than two people. Usually consisting of three to six adults, all partners live together and share finances, children, and household responsibilities. All adults in the family are sexual partners. There are different terms for the different types of polyamorous group marriages. See related POLYAMORY, POLYGAMY or PRIDE FAMILY. GUN PLAY: the practice of including firearms as props in BDSM activities. Replica guns and the like are sometimes used in rape play. It is not recommended to use actual firearms, even unloaded firearms or firearms loaded with blanks, in any sort of BDSM play and should be considered highly dangerous for obvious reasons. A simple mistake with gun play can cost someone their life. 
GYNARCHY: any form of political, governmental, or social system that is ruled by women or a woman. In BDSM, it is sometimes used in the context that all females are assumed to be superior to all males. 
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