O or O PLAY:
code word for BDSM or slave play, originating from an erotic novel published in 1954 called Story of O, written by Anne Desclos under the pen name Pauline Reage, about a young woman's descent into submission and slave training.



O-RING & D-RING:
rings used in rigging or bondage.  An O-ring is shaped like the letter “O,” and a D-ring is shaped like an uppercase letter “D.”



OBJECTIFICATION:
sexual arousal from being dehumanized or the act of dehumanizing another.  Making someone nothing more than a sex object or nothing more than an object such as a sex toy.

See related HUMILIATION.



ODALISQUE:
a term for a female slave in an Ottoman Imperial harem, who’s role was that of a chambermaid or an assistant.  The term is sometimes used in BDSM slave play.



OLD LEATHER or OLD GUARD:
related to the gay male BDSM communities that began sometime shortly after World War II, characterized by a very structured hierarchy with elaborate codes of conduct and protocol.

See contrast NEW LEATHER and see related LEATHER COMMUNITY.



ONE COLUMN TIE:
a bondage technique that binds one part of the body to an object.

See related TWO COLUMN TIE and LARK'S HEAD KNOT.





ONE-EIGHTY (180) CONDITION:
when a submissive falsely declares a recently ended BDSM relationship, usually a 24/7 TPE relationship, to have been either physically and/or mentally abusive when no actual abuse took place.

See related BDSM ABUSE.



ONE TO TEN or PAIN LEVEL SYSTEM:
a description of a person's pain intensity, with ten being the highest level of pain.  A way to describe the intensity of contact (negotiated before a play session) that a submissive is willing to accept.  Also refers to the way a person is feeling during or directly after a session, used to describe any pain.  Hospitals use a similar system as a way for patients to tell doctors how intense their pain is, with ten being the highest level of pain.



ORAL SERVITUDE:
a specific type of submission in which the submissive satisfies the dominant with oral sex but is not permitted to have any other sexual relations with the dominant.





ORGASM CONTROL:
the practice of controlling when someone can or cannot have an orgasm.





ORGY:
a sexual act or acts with multiple people.  Sex with more than three people.  A sex party.



ORIENTATION PLAY:
any consensual activity whereby a person is ordered to engage in sex with someone of the same sex.  Usually, the concept of forcing a person who sees her/himself as straight to have gay sex for the purposes of BDSM humiliation play.



OUSTING:
the act of expelling a person from a BDSM event.  Sometimes used erroneously to mean outing.

See OUTING (OUTED).



OUTING (OUTED):
the act of disclosing a person's BDSM interest or their involvement with BDSM to someone outside of the BDSM world without the person's consent.  To disclose a person's sexual behavior, sexual preference, or sexual identity without the person's consent.  Outing a person is considered a major breach in BDSM etiquette and can be considered a form of BDSM abuse.

See also related DOXING,  ETIQUETTE OF BDSM,  SCENE NAME  and  BDSM ABUSE.



OVER THE KNEE or OTK:
a style of spanking in which a dominant turns a submissive over his/her knee, in order to spank the buttocks of the submissive.  One OTK technique is once the submissive is in position, is for the dominant to lock his/her leg over the legs of the submissive, which keeps the submissive from squirming during the spanking. .





OVERSEER:
another term for master.

See MASTER.



OVERSEER'S WHIP:   see PUNISHMENT WHIP.



OWNER:
a title for someone who assumes the role of an owner of a person in master/slave play or a master/slave relationship.

See MASTER.



OWNED:
a verb that describes a person that assumes the role of a slave in a master/slave relationship.

See SLAVE.



OWNERSHIP:
referring to a master who owns a submissive as a slave, and/or sex slave, usually in the context of an ongoing 24/7 TPE relationship.








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