O or O PLAY: code word for BDSM or slave play, originating from an erotic novel published in 1954 called Story of O, written by Anne Desclos under the pen name Pauline Reage, about a young woman's descent into submission and slave training.  O-RING & D-RING: rings used in rigging or bondage. An o-ring is shaped like the letter O, and a d-ring is shaped like an uppercase letter D. OBJECTIFICATION: sexual arousal from being dehumanized or the act of dehumanizing another. Making someone nothing more than a sex object or nothing more than an object such as a sex toy. See related HUMILIATION. ODALISQUE: a term for a female slave in an Ottoman Imperial harem. She was an assistant to the concubines and wives, and could rise in status to become one of them. The term is sometimes used in slave play. OLD LEATHER or OLD GUARD: related to the gay male BDSM communities that began sometime shortly after World War II, characterized by a very structured hierarchy with elaborate codes of conduct and protocol. See contrast NEW LEATHER and see related LEATHER COMMUNITY. ONE COLUMN TIE: a bondage technique that binds one part of the body to an object. See related TWO COLUMN TIE and LARK'S HEAD TIE. 
ONE-EIGHTY (180) SYNDROME: When a submissive falsely declares a recently ended BDSM relationship, usually a 24/7 TPE relationship, to have been either physically and/or mentally abusive when no actual abuse took place. This is sometimes caused by her/his feelings of shame or embarrassment about the role she/he chose to take with a dom/top whom she/he no longer has romantic feelings for. This is sometimes a conscious occurrence, often followed by a submissive slandering the name of the dominant. Other times, the submissive may be unaware that she/he is re-writing history as an ego defense mechanism. When taking the role of a submissive, a person chooses to give up some measure of control. This puts her/him in an extremely vulnerable headspace. After the relationship ends, and she/he no longer has feelings for the former dominant, the submissive may feel the need to protect her/his sense of self-worth. A cognitive dissonance may occur in which the submissive deludes her/himself into thinking that she/he was coerced into the role and activities taken place during the relationship. Also, she/he may feel a new-found sense of freedom, with which she/he then looks back on the entire BDSM relationship seeing it as oppressive, ignoring the fact that she/he elected to live such a lifestyle to suite her/his own needs and sexual desires. This form of abuse is more often overlooked in BDSM circles, most likely because physical and mental abuse towards submissives at large, especially female submissives, seems to be a greater ongoing problem. See related BDSM ABUSE. ONE TO TEN or PAIN LEVEL SYSTEM: a description of a person's pain intensity, with ten being the highest level of pain. A way to describe the intensity of contact (negotiated before a scene) that a submissive is willing to accept. Also refers to the way a person is feeling during or directly after a scene, used to describe any pain. Hospitals use a similar system as a way for patients to tell doctors how intense their pain is, with ten being the highest level of pain. ORAL SERVITUDE: a specific type of submission in which the submissive satisfies the dominant with oral sex, but is not permitted to have any other sexual relations with the dominant. 
ORGASM CONTROL: the practice of controlling when someone can or cannot have an orgasm. 
ORGY: a sexual act or acts with multiple people. Sex with more than three people. A sex party. ORIENTATION PLAY: any consensual activity whereby a person is ordered to engage in sex with someone of the same sex. Usually the concept of forcing a person who sees him/herself as straight to have gay sex for the purposes of BDSM humiliation play. OUSTING: the act of expelling a person from a BDSM event. Sometimes used erroneously to mean outing. See OUTING (OUTED). OUTING (OUTED): the act of disclosing a person's interest in or involvement with BDSM to someone outside of the BDSM world without the person's consent. To disclose a person's sexual behavior, sexual preference, or sexual identity without the person's consent. Outing a person is considered a major breach in BDSM etiquette and can be considered a form of BDSM abuse. See also related DOXING, ETIQUETTE OF BDSM, SCENE NAME and BDSM ABUSE.. OVER THE KNEE or OTK: a style of spanking in which a dominant turns a submissive over his/her knee, in order to spank the buttocks of the submissive. A popular technique, once the submissive is in position, is for the dominant to lock his/her leg over the legs of the submissive, which keeps the submissive from squirming during the spanking. 
OVERSEER: another term for master. See MASTER. OVERSEER'S WHIP: see PUNISHMENT WHIP. OWNER: a title for someone who assumes the role of an owner of a person in master/slave play or a master/slave relationship. See MASTER. OWNED: a verb that describes a person that assumes the role of a slave in a master/slave relationship. See SLAVE. OWNERSHIP: referring to a master who owns a submissive as a slave, and/or sex slave, usually in the context of an ongoing 24/7 TPE relationship. 
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