O or O PLAY:
code word for BDSM or slave play, originating from an erotic novel published in 1954 called Story of O, written by Anne Desclos under the pen name Pauline Reage, about a young woman's descent into submission and slave training.



O-RING & D-RING:
rings used in rigging or bondage.  An O-ring is shaped like the letter “O,” and a D-ring is shaped like an uppercase letter “D.”



OBJECTIFICATION:
sexual arousal from being dehumanized or the act of dehumanizing another.  Making someone nothing more than a sex object or nothing more than an object such as a sex toy.

See related HUMILIATION.



ODALISQUE:
a term for a female slave in an Ottoman Imperial harem, who’s role was that of a chambermaid or an assistant.  The term is sometimes used in BDSM slave play.



OLD LEATHER or OLD GUARD:
related to the gay male BDSM communities that began sometime shortly after World War II, characterized by a very structured hierarchy with elaborate codes of conduct and protocol.

See contrast NEW LEATHER and see related LEATHER COMMUNITY.



ONE COLUMN TIE or SINGLE COLUMN TIE:
a bondage technique that binds one part of the body to an object.

See related TWO COLUMN TIE and BONDAGE SAFETY TIE.





ONE-EIGHTY (180) CONDITION:
when a submissive falsely declares a recently ended BDSM relationship, usually a 24/7 TPE relationship, to have been either physically and/or mentally abusive when no actual abuse took place.

See related BDSM ABUSE.



ONE TO TEN or PAIN LEVEL SYSTEM:
a description of a person's pain intensity, with ten being the highest level of pain.  A way to describe the intensity of contact (negotiated before a play session) that a submissive is willing to accept.  Also refers to the way a person is feeling during or directly after a session, used to describe any pain.  Hospitals use a similar system as a way for patients to tell doctors how intense their pain is, with ten being the highest level of pain.



ORAL SERVITUDE:
a specific type of submission in which the submissive satisfies the dominant with oral sex but is not permitted to have any other sexual relations with the dominant.





ORGASM CONTROL:
the practice of controlling when someone can or cannot have an orgasm.





ORGY:
a sexual act or acts with multiple people.  Sex with more than three people.  A sex party.



ORIENTATION PLAY:
any consensual activity whereby a person is ordered to engage in sex with someone of the same sex.  Usually, the concept of forcing a person who sees themselves as straight to have gay sex for the purposes of BDSM humiliation play.



OUSTING:
the act of expelling a person from a BDSM event.  Sometimes used erroneously to mean outing.

See OUTING (OUTED).



OUTING (OUTED):
the act of disclosing a person's BDSM interest or their involvement with BDSM to someone outside of the BDSM world without the person's consent.  To disclose a person's sexual behavior, sexual preference, or sexual identity without the person's consent.  Outing a person is considered a major breach in BDSM etiquette and can be considered a form of BDSM abuse.

See also related DOXING,  ETIQUETTE OF BDSM,  SCENE NAME  and  BDSM ABUSE.



OVER THE KNEE or OTK:
a style of spanking in which a dominant turns a submissive over their knee, in order to spank the buttocks of the submissive.  One OTK technique is once the submissive is in position, is for the dominant to lock their leg over the legs of the submissive, which keeps the submissive from squirming during the spanking. .





OVERSEER:
another term for master.

See MASTER.



OVERSEER'S WHIP:   see PUNISHMENT WHIP.



OWNER:
a title for someone who assumes the role of an owner of a person in master/slave play or a master/slave relationship.

See MASTER.



OWNED:
a verb that describes a person that assumes the role of a slave in a master/slave relationship.

See SLAVE.



OWNERSHIP:
referring to a master who owns a submissive as a slave, and/or sex slave, usually in the context of an ongoing 24/7 TPE relationship.








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