T3WD (TTTWD): an acronym for "those things that we do," meant as a code for the BDSM acronym or a code word to stand for all that is kinky or fetish. Sometimes but not common, the term is pronounced as "three-tees-double-you-dee" or "tee-times-three-double-you-dee." As the BDSM acronym becomes more common among main stream vanilla people, having a code word allows people to talk about BDSM in mixed company. Modeled after the acronym WIITWD. See related WIITWD.  TAIL PLUG: a butt plug attached to a tail, most often a pony tail, fox tail or cat tail, meant to be inserted into a person to give the appearance that they have a tail. Used often in animalism play. See related BUTT PLUG and ANIMALISM. 
TAMPON TRAINING: the practice of inserting tampons into the anus of a male submissive as a part of humiliation play, meant to either make him empathize with the female menstrual cycle, or used as a way of emasculating him for feminization. Tampons can soak up all moisture, especially if left in for any length of time, and when they are removed they can tear the lining of the rectum. This practice is not recommended. Some have tied the string of a tampon to other soft, solid objects that are the size of a tampon to avoid injury to the submissive. Though it is not recommended to put any object in a person's anus that was not designed specifically for doing so. An object could separate from the string and become lodged in the rectum. 
TASER: a self-defense weapon meant to immobilize a person by temporarily disrupting muscle functions and inflicting pain. It shoots two small dart-like electrodes in which it administers a high voltage of electricity. Like any electricity play, playing with tasers can prove to be dangerous, particularly so with a tasers because of the high voltage that the gun admits. The average taser releases an estimated 50,000 volts of electricity. It is possible to stop a person's heart or disrupt body functions and cause permanent injury or death. It is advisable to never use a stun gun, a cattle prod, taser, or any other device that admits high voltage electricity for the purposes of BDSM play. Tasers are illegal in many states without a license to use them. Despite the obvious dangers involved with this device, some choose to ignore the dangers and engage in BDSM play using it. Hence why it is in the glossary. All dangerous BDSM activities or edge play have different levels of risk involved. Playing with a taser should be considered extremely high risk and discouraged. TAWSE or TAWS: an instrument used for striking or whipping a person, made of thick, heavy leather, which splits into two or three parallel strips, called thongs, at the striking end. When the thongs strike the flesh, they never hit precisely at the same time. That fraction of a second delay causes the pain to be twice as intense as a single thong, and twice as loud. The first use of the tawse was recorded in the nineteenth century in Scotland, as a form of corporal punishment in schools. It was first used to inflict pain on the palms of a student's hands. Historically, a type of tawse was also given to girls about to be married as a wedding gift, with an inscription engraved in the leather: "Fur the weans," meaning "for your children." Ironically, the gift was also sometimes used on the wife by the husband. 
TAYLOR HAMMER: a medical instrument consisting of a triangular rubber hammer attached to a metal handle, used for the testing of a person's reflexes. Used in percussion play. 
TEEN PLAY: a form of age play in which a person takes on the role of a teenager, usually pretending to be under age. See AGE PLAY. TELEDILDONICS: a sex machine that can be operated remotely over the Internet, used in cybersex sessions. The term has also been used to describe vibrators that operate via Bluetooth, or can be turned on and off via a smart phone. TENS UNIT: a medical instrument; a device that sends electrical signals through pads that are affixed to the skin for the purpose of stimulating muscles and to relieve pain by way of blocking the transmission of pain impulses through the nerves. Used in electrical play. See related ELECTRICAL PLAY. 
THONG: a narrow strip of leather or other material, used as a lash or strap. A very thin tawse without the snake tongue (split leather) at the striking end. Also refers to the body of a single tail whip, the part before the fall or cracker. Thong also refers to underwear or bikini bottom, with a very thin support strap so that most of the buttocks is uncovered. See related TAWSE. 
THREE HOLE PUNCH: a sexual practice or act in which a female is double-penetrated while performing oral sex on another male. Three males and a female. It also refers to the sexual act in which a female is double-penetrated by two men in her vagina while a third penetrates her anus. See related DOUBLE PENETRATION. 
THREE-SIXTY-NINE or 369: a sexual practice or act in which, whilst two people are engaged in oral sex (sixty-nine position), a third person penetrates one of them. Three-sixty-nine is often an act in humiliation play in which a submissive male performs oral sex on his female dominant, stimulating her clitoris with his tongue whilst she is being penetrated by a more dominant male. This is a popular storyline scenario in cuckold related pornography. 
THUD or THUDDY: referring to the sensation from a strike that is of a heavy, dull pain; the comparison of pain to that of a heavy impact feeling. The feelings caused by being struck by a whip or flogger are usually described as either a thud or a sting. See related contrast STING. THUMB CUFFS: a device used to restrain a person by the thumbs. Similar to handcuffs, only much smaller. 
TICKLING: any BDSM activity that involves tickling the body to induce laughter, and/or tickling for a long time to cause anxiety. TIGHTLACER: a person who participates in lacing. See LACING. TIT TORTURE: the BDSM practice of causing pain to the tits and/or nipples of a male or female submissive. 
TOM CAT: a type of whip consisting of a non-rigid handle with several narrow lashes, similar to a flogger. 
TOILET HUMILIATION PLAY or THP: a form of humiliation play in which a dominant forces the submissive to urinate or defecate in front of the dominant, often after an enema was given to the submissive, meant to embarrass the submissive. Sometimes the dominant will wipe and clean the submissive after going or comment on the condition of the toilet bowl in order to add to the humiliation and embarrassment. Sometimes a dominant will have the submissive perform oral sex while the submissive is on the toilet, referred to as toilet sex, (see term below). Toilet humiliation play can impact the submissive psychologically, sometimes bringing about an extra level of humiliation and submission. This is considered separate from and not related to potty training or age play, depending on the dynamic and conditions during the humiliation play. See UN-related POTTY TRAINING and see UN-related AGE PLAY. 
TOILET SEX: the act of giving or receiving oral sex while on a toilet, simultaneously urinating or defecating, usually as a form of humiliation play. This is considered different from Water Sports or Scat. TOILET TRAINING: see POTTY TRAINING. TOP: a title for a person who administers floggings, whippings, or spankings. The term top is also a title for a person who dominates another in a sexual role-play. The opposite of the bottom (which is the person receiving floggings or spankings). The term top is used for anyone who administers any sort of BDSM play. It is a term for the physical aspect only. Not to be confused with dominant (title), one who has assumed psychological control over a submissive. TOP DROP: very much like bottom drop, it is the abrupt, temporary feeling of depression or unhappiness that some dominants experience immediately after a BDSM scene. There are many reasons for top drop, such as guilt for making a mistake, or disappointment with not bringing the submissive to a level of subspace he anticipated and hoped for, or sometimes it is simply the sudden end to the anticipation or buildup to a scene. See related BOTTOM DROP. TOPPING FROM THE BOTTOM: a term for an action in which the bottom of a scene directs, dictates, or controls the events taking place. For example, the Marquis de Sade often ordered his servants to flog him with a birch rod or duster made of hay whilst he masturbated. He would give direction to his servants while engaged in the act, hence he was topping from the bottom. For those in power exchange relationships who also engage in switching roles during play, where the dominant in the relationship takes on the role of bottom during a play session, this act can be considered topping from the bottom. However, the term topping from the bottom is usually simply referencing a person who takes on the role of bottom during a scene and then proceeds to direct and control the scene. Topping from the bottom is a term that directs focus on the actions of the submissive during a scene. Similar to bottoming from the top which is a term focused on the actions (or inactions) of the dominant during a scene. See related contrast BOTTOMING FROM THE TOP. TOP'S DISEASE: a derogatory term for the state of mind of a dominant in which he/she feels superior to submissives and treats them as inferior beings. TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE (TPE): an extreme form of power exchange. A situation where two or more people consensually agree to a relationship in which one has complete control over another, and defined roles are set with one person always being dominant while the other or others are always submissive. If this TPE relationship is continuous and ongoing, it is considered to be a 24/7 TPE. See related TWENTY-FOUR SEVEN. TOWERING: refers to the fetish of appearing unusually tall and towering over others with the use of very high-heeled shoes. Towering is often a term used by male transvestites who appear as unusually tall females. It also sometimes refers to the fetish for very tall women. It is sometimes loosely connected to foot fetishism. TPE: see TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE or see related TWENTY-FOUR SEVEN. TRAINED SUBMISSIVE: refers to a submissve that has undergone some level of training by an experienced dominant. A submissive who has learned certain protocols and rituals set by the dominant. An experienced submissive. A person who is willing to be safely regulated and is mentally and physically prepared for subordination. TRAINING: see CONDITIONING. TRAINING COLLAR: similar to an engagement ring; a collar given to a submissive by a dominant at the beginning of a TPE relationship while they are still exploring the possibility of a committed relationship. A collar given during training, which will later be replaced by a more permanent collar. 
TRAMPLING: a practice in which a submissive lies on the floor, and is then walked on by a dominant. Usually the practice of a female dominant stepping on the genitals of a submissive male. 
TRANSGENDER or TRANS: is an umbrella term describing people whose gender identity is the opposite of their assigned sex. Most often, transmen are men who were born with female anatomy, while transwomen are women who were born with male anatomy. This sometimes but does not always include medical procedures in order to acquire the physical characteristics of the opposite sex. For some, simply the characteristics of either masculine or feminine can determine if they identify with transgender. transgender describes transmen, transwomen, genderqueer/non-binary, bigender, pangender, genderfluid, or agender. TRANNY: a derogatory term for a transvestite or transsexual. You will find the term most often used in porn along with the term trap or sissy. Though considered a derogatory term, tranny is becoming accepted by many in the trans community as a way of diminishing the negativity associated with the term, much the way the term sissy is being embraced by the BDSM community. TRANSEXUAL (variant spelling TRANSEXUAL): a person who feels, emotionally and psychologically, that they belong to the opposite sex. This can also mean a person who has undergone medical procedures in order to partially or completely acquire the physical characteristics of the opposite sex. This term is being used less and is instead being replaced with the term Transgender. See TRANSGENDER. TRANSVESTITE or CROSS DRESSER: a person, typically a man, who derives pleasure form dressing in clothes appropriate to the opposite sex. TRAP: an attractive feminine male or a transgender female with male genitalia, in which she/he is considered difficult to tell that she/he has male genitalia while clothed because she/he appears completely female. It is considered as a derogatory term for a transvestite who is convincing in their appearance as being of the opposite sex, thus trapping a person (who is straight or not attracted to male genitalia), into becoming attracted to them. You will find the term most often used in porn along with the term tranny and sissy. Though considered a derogatory term, trap is becoming accepted by many in the trans community as a way of diminishing the negativity associated with the term, much the way the term sissy is being embraced by the BDSM community. In some circles the term is used to compliment a transgender person as a way of telling them they are attractive and convincing in their preferred sex. TREE SWITCH: see SWITCH (branch switch). TRIAD: a polyamorous relationship of three people. TRIBE: a social circle. A group of individuals interested in BDSM and/or engaging in BDSM activities together. See related FAMILY. Sometimes refers to a BDSM group that is exclusive to female members only. The term tribe also refers to a name for a polyamorous group or family, in which members have sexual relations with each other and/or also engage in BDSM activities. TRIBADISM or TRIBBING: non-penetrative sex between two females in which they rub their vulvas against each other for sexual stimulation of the clitoris. This includes several sexual positions to include the missionary position and scissoring. See related SCISSORING. 
TRIGGERS: behaviors, words, or activities that provoke a strong emotional response. Sometimes it is certain behaviors that provoke a memory or an experience that causes distress to the individual. It is common belief that a dominant should learn his/her submissive to the best of his/her ability, being on the lookout for which buttons evoke positive or negative responses. TRIPLE PENETRATION: see THREE HOLE PUNCH. TRIPLE WEAVE: another name for or variation of the double weave. See FLORENTINE. TWEEZER CLAMPS: a type of nipple clamp consisting of long thin flexible metal tweezer-type pieces, with a ring that slides forward to adjust the tightness around the nipple. Usually there are two clamps attached together with a thin chain. 
TWENTY-FOUR-SEVEN (24/7) or 24/7 TPE: a more extreme form of consensual non-consent role-playing, referring to the time frame of a TPE relationship. Referring to a D/s relationship that takes on a structured set of rules, engaging in a total power exchange (TPE) 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, with no predetermined time for the relationship to end. Each party in the relationship takes on a permanent role of either dominant or submissive. The submissive surrenders complete control to the other party in the relationship, as a slave to be cared for and punished as the dominant sees fit. Most 24/7 relationships involve a contract, a structured set of rules that the collared submissive must adhere to. Also known as slave play. For some, these relationships are played out as though the submissive has no rights to bring about an end to the relationship. However, it is thought that a much healthier approach to this sort of relationship is for the submissive to be completely owned for as long as she/he wishes to be owned, maintaining the right to end said contract and relationship at any time. When both parties have the ability to end the relationship, it can help prevent an abuse of power. 24/7 TPE relationships are also sometimes referred to as lifestyle D/s. See related TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE. TWO COLUMN TIE: a bondage technique that binds two parts of the body to a single object or two separate objects. See related ONE COLUMN TIE. 
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