UGOL'S LAW: a philosophy first stated by Harry Ugol, which holds the belief that for any given kink, there is always someone, somewhere who shares the same kink. ULTRAVIOLET WAND: the erroneous name for a violet wand. There is a misconception that violet wands produce ultraviolet light, and therefore people often call violet wands ultraviolet wands. Violet wands do not produce any measurable amount of ultraviolet light. See VIOLET WAND. UNICORN: a bisexual person, usually but not always female, who is willing to join in a sexual relationship with a preexisting couple, usually a male and female couple. The third person entering into a triad or threesome steady relationship or marriage. It is thought that such a person is very difficult to find, if not impossible because such a person does not exist, hence the name and metaphor of the mythical creature. The term unicorn is also sometimes used in a derogatory manner towards a person wishing to become a unicorn or towards the bisexual couple seeking such a person. This might be due to the fact that some people believe that an exclusive triad relationship is not a true polyamorous relationship, because the parties in the triad are not free to have sexual encounters with others outside the triad. Often an existing couple will seek a third person to love them both equally. It is often the view of many in the polyamory community that one cannot simply will themselves to be in love with two people equally or that a triad cannot equally be bonded, therefore the notion of a unicorn is often considered to be an immature mentality. This is how it is used as a derogatory term in the polyamory community. Though rare, such triads do exist and have been proven successful. Currently, the term is increasingly used to describe any female that engages in a threesome sexual encounter with a couple. The term is being used less of a derogatory term today and is now often used simply to mean any person that joins a couple for a sexual encounter. See TRIAD, GROUP MARRIAGE, or PRIDE FAMILY. UNIFORM PLAY: any form of role-play that involves a uniform. The BDSM role-play power exchange between a person taking on the role of a person with authority or a high level of control over another person, such as a police officer or military official. There has been a history of people wearing World War II era Nazi uniforms in the BDSM community at fetish events relating to uniform play and/or race play. In recent times, this practice has been increasingly discouraged due to the negative social acceptance of anything related to hate groups. See related MILITARY PLAY and RACE PLAY. URETHRAL SOUND: a medical device that is inserted into the opening of the penis used to increase the inner diameter of the urethra and/or locate medical issues such as obstruction. This device is sometimes used in BDSM play, by inserting it into the meatus of the penis. UROPHAGIA: see WATER SPORTS. UTILITY GAG: a specific type of gag with attachments protruding from the gag that have a utility purpose. The attachments may be a duster, dildo, vibrator, serving tray, ashtray, writing pen, toilet paper holder, etc. ADVERTISEMENTS: ~ |